Looking for Love (the "Married 25 Years" nix)A a couple of years ago the wonderful Boydie (
@Boydie )helped turn one of my songs into something real. With help from Jack (
@jacksimmons ) and Vicki (
@CaliaMoko ) providing vocals there it was: an actual song that I'd written and I was able to hear it. It felt wonderful!
But there was one thing missing (welk; two. But I'll get to that in a moment).
What was missing was Mrs. Sterix...
A long, long time ago we'd actually made a "live" recording together of this song on cassette. Me playing the synthesizer (not very good but I managed to not screw up too much) and myself and my wife providing vocals. I was actually annoyed with her on that recording originally because she ad-libbed a line and I was pretty pissed with her at the time. But then it grew on me until the song couldn't live without that extra line.
Unfortunately, that recording has long-since been lost to the world and that's one of my biggest regrets in life. It was one of those moments where we really clicked together and I've been desperate to relive it again. It's just never worked out. For one thing, despite any confidence I show with my writing on this forum I'm actually very secretive when it comes to my lyrics when it comes to my wife. I've shared (to my shame) far more stuff here than I have with her. I just find it too difficult to share this part of my life for whatever reason (I think the nearest I can put it is that I feel a sense of vulnerability with them and when I've tried to bring her into into this part of my life it only takes the one wrong word to cut me like a knife and I automatically withdraw from her on this - not sure if you'll understand this but it's the best I can do to explain. I guess the ones you love the most can hurt you most, even when they don't mean to).
So the first thing missing is a recording of me and my wife singing this together like we did before.
The second part was all me... I've never been happy with the lyrics. I've spent thirty years or so trying to get them right but I've never managed to. I've been hindered by the fact I wrote them originally when I was much younger and I want to keep as much essence of thos original lyrics as possible. I've never spent as much time on one set of lyrics (even "Oh Futility" for the Sinners) than I have trying to get this right. Normally I can (and pardon my French) piss these things. I can quite often write lyrics in 10-15 minutes and not need to change even one word but this song... bloody aaaaaggghhh!
Until now that is. Holy merde! I think I've finally freaking done it. I think I've finally found the final version of the lyrics. I'm so shocked.
So with that out of the way, I need to find the courage to go back to the other part. I need to bring my lovely wife back into the musical fold and record this again with her. Oh boy! I'm nervous!
I have the instrumental version of the song ready that Boydie so generously provided and I've been practicing singing to it. What I haven't done is tell my wife. Every time I've worked up the courage I've faltered and backed down (I'm such a pussy!).
Which is where you come in, my wonderful song-making friends!
I figure I need that extra push - that little something that MAKES me go through with this. Something that prevents me from NOT doing this.
I figure that if I announce needing to do this it will make it something I HAVE to go through with. So I want you to push me on this, berate me even when it seems like I'm not getting anywhere with it. I'd like you to be both my Devil's Advocate and the Angel on my Shoulder whispering encouragement in my ear. Hopefully I'll be able to get passed this "block" and get this done.
Sorry for the long post... and thanks in advance.