Katie, this made me cry. I'm so sorry this happened to you, but your writing is really moving.
Understand, though, that for every person who has a problem with you, there are countless more who don't, and who support you. Just look here, where your lyrics are turned into songs, and are so well received. You really can write.
I don't know if you think of it this way, but I knew a transgender woman who called her male anatomy her birth defect, and that helped me understand her a little better. But someone like that man last night might best be avoided. I'm glad you're safe.
I send you a big hug.
Lynn