Boydie - you mentioned recording at a lower volume which is something I have already tried. Which tool do you then use to bring it up in the mix without bring the background noise up at the same time?
I would suggest just mixing at a lower overall volume so reduce everything
As a general rule of thumb your mix should be bouncing around on your master levels (with everything included) at around -9db to -6db
Then simply turn up your monitoring
When you have your mixing and noise issues sorted we can look at setting you up with some rudimentary mastering (eg a master bus compressor or limiter or normalise) to raise the overall level at the end
If you are thinking of pitching commercially in todays market (even TV) then you do need to develop a good recording, gain staging, mixing and mastering workflow to get "clean" mixes at a good level
I would suggest taking it one step at a time and get your recording sorted at a nice level with no noise and we can then look at the next step in the recording chain